ADOPTION FROM A HUSBAND'S POINT OF VIEW

Wow, this is a very powerful post from Erica's husband that really spoke to my heart.  They are currently in Ethiopia with their new daughter finishing up their adoption journey.

http://thisshubinclan.blogspot.com/2011/03/my-husband-on-adoption.html

When we first started talking about adoption four or five years ago I was completely against it. I was against having more kid’s period. The main reason for it; selfishness. I didn’t want another child to be



responsible for, to educate, to train, to nurture. That would mean more food I would have to buy, more clothes that will need to be purchased, vacations will now be more expensive, and the list just goes on and on. It came down to pure selfishness and greed.






While I was walking my job site one day, I was thinking about when Jesus confronted Peter after He was raised from the dead. Jesus asked, “Do you love me?” Peter said, “Yes!” “Then feed my sheep” Jesus replied. I started thinking that if Jesus asked me that how would I respond? What does it mean to feed my sheep? Combine that with the conversations Erica and I had been having about adoption; I was convicted. I was living in disobedience; I was hardening my heart to Gods call. In multiple places God commands us to take care of orphans and widows. Was I doing that? No, in fact I was doing the exact opposite. I was caring more about selfish desires then what God wanted. At that moment I repented and asked God to forgive me of those sins. It was then that I wrote an email to Erica telling her it was time to start the adoption process. Ten months later we were walking down the airport terminal in Phoenix as I carried a 3 year old boy in my arms. My son.






As I reflected on the process while Silas was running around the terminal in one of the many airports we had layovers in, one of the things I remember most vividly is the feeling that I almost missed this. I would have missed the blessing of being a dad again. I would have missed being a father to this little boy simply because I would rather be able to buy that bigger TV or go to Disney five times a year.






Through this journey God showed me what His love is, Greater love


has no one than this that someone lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13. That is surrendering all that you have to Him, which will include my idol of self. On the surface I gave the appearance of Holiness, not realizing I was lying to myself and everybody else around me.






God now has us on another journey, this one of faith. The first one was to break our hearts toward the plight of the orphan and convict us of our idol of self, this one has been a journey of faith. Total dependence. God is growing our faith in His power like only God can. God has faithfully provided all the funds for a second adoption.






On the eve of my departure to pick up our fifth child, this time a little girl, I reflect back on the past year and how God has strengthened my faith. My love for Him has grown deeper and wider, it is a mystery to me how God chooses to sanctify us, but I wouldn’t change it for the world and its possessions. Plus I get to be a father to another little child. That is what


adoption is about, God doesn’t need us to adopt these kids. It is the height of all arrogance to think we are doing this because God can’t. God doesn’t call us to adopt just to help the children but it is to sanctify us. Do you really think you are the best parent in the world? I know I screw up all the time in raising my kids already. Yet the same way God has adopted us, we are now reflecting what God did for us on a physical level. He is redeeming us and at the same time he gets to use us to be the tool to redeem our children. We now get to love on, nurture, and raise these children the same way God does us. It doesn’t matter if it’s a biological or adopted child, God gave you both.






For all you dads that might be on the fence in regard to adoption, I would encourage you to search your heart, truly do


some deep searching in why you are saying no. I would bet that 9 out 10 times it will have to do with sin. Mine was selfishness and greed; I don’t know what yours is but I do know that God commands us to do something. And I don’t think when God commanded that he


was thinking just send money and that’s good enough. Let God use you. Step out in faith. Tear down your idol, whatever it might be. Stop living in fear and do violence on that idol.


Resting In Jesus,
~s

Commanded To Help

COMMANDED TO HELP

YES WE ARE
EACH AND EVERY ONE  OF US



Yes, we are.  All of us.   The Word of God commands us to care for the orphans and widows.  Time and again throughout the bible it commands us to care of the orphans and widows.  That can look different for each of us.  Some of us adopt, others become foster parents, still others are mighty prayer warriors that pray little ones home to their forever families, and others help financially. 

WHERE DO YOU FIT IN?

One thing for sure is we can all pray for these little ones who so desperately need mamas and papas to love them.  Who need forever families, who need to hear how much God loves them.

[by nogreaterjoymom.com]
The enemy HATES adoption! Every family enters into an intense spiritual battle when they try to adopt a child. The enemy WILL throw his fiery darts their way. He will try everything possible to get the adoption to fail. It is a fact!







Adoption is not just about bringing a child into the loving arms of parents--it's about snatching a child out of darkness and bringing them into HIS glorious light.

But it's a battle from Day One.

Last week one precious family traveled to a land far away to adopt their sweet little boy. They went to court. After five hours of being questioned by the judge, the answer was NO! They were denied. They were told that they could not adopt sweet K. "Sure--go ahead and adopt a 'healthy' child. But children with Down syndrome are better off in an institution."







So sad.

The little lovie was denied the RIGHT to have a family.

http://www.oureyesopened.blogspot.com/

This little guy is being denied a family, a family who has flown clear across the world to bring their son home and have been denied by the judge simply because he has down syndrome.  They are appealing.  Please people, pray for the judge's heart to be changed.  Otherwise, Baby K will live the rest of his Life in an insane asylum.

The Higbie's are working hard to bring their precious Lera home - They need to be fully funded by the end of March to be able to adopt their daughter.  savinglera.blogspot.com. 

Isn't she the cutest little thing?  Can you help her come home to her forever family?

The Silva family are working hard to bring their little Noah home - silvamoose.com. He is in Eastern Europe. They are trying to get to him as soon as possible and still need a lot of the money. Noah is in an orphanage which is known to not take good care of its children. They have a fabulous giveaway happening--an awesome Nikon camera (with case and lenses) up for grabs. Please prayerfully consider helping them. I know they would be so thankful.

Isn't he the sweetest little guy?  Can you imagine, he's living in an orphanage and if he isn't adopted will be sent to an insane asylum.  He needs his mommy and daddy.  He needs to come home to his forever family.

Jon and Angie have been matched with a baby who has many special needs and will be born soon in the U.S. They are currently giving away an iPad and a whole lot of other awesome prizes. Please consider helping them out. They need to come up with $10,000 in a huge hurry to make this adoption possible. Sadly, not many people have contributed to their adoption yet. Please can we change that? ourlivesworksinprogress.blogspot.com





There are so many ways to to help the orphan.  You can stop by these families blogs, leave them a comment, give them a shout out on  your blog or face book, donate to their adoptions.  You would be surprised how a child's life can be saved by donating just a few dollars.  It all adds up.  And it is so desperately needed to bring these little lives home to their loving families, to medical care they desperately need, to have the opportunity to hear about Jesus. 

We can all pray them home.  That doesn't cost us anything, just time on our knees storming the gates of heaven for these precious lives.  And most importantly...

NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR GOD.

NOTHING!!



Searching my heart,
~s